Giselle Stanborough, Sydney based artist and creator of the ethical dating service, Lozein, answers your questions about the modern dating world.
My partner and I are enthusiastic users of your match-making app Lozein, and we both find it a very useful and convenient way to ensure our mutual fidelity to our relationship. However, I am quite concerned by my partner’s low Independence scores. He identifies as extrovert and is very active on social media, but as Lozein has revealed, he constantly checks for feedback from his online audience and unfortunately, allows this to impact his self-esteem. This sets up a negative feedback loop, detrimental to his Self-Esteem scores. How can I encourage a more independent mindset and improve his overall ethical evaluation on Lozein?
I’m sure the commonality of your quandary is of no comfort to you, but rest assured that our Lozein research team has dedicated a significant portion of our investigative labour into the correct use of online media to re-enforce, rather than negate, personal independence.
Persuade your partner to think in a higher level of abstraction regarding his online behaviour and consumption. Rather than ‘relating’ (which is an expression of empathy and by extension, an act of imagination) encourage him to use the word ‘connecting’. Connecting is something we do rather than feel and is therefore easier to observe and quantify, allowing a more efficient integration into the Lozein Ethical Analysis algorithm. The proper manifestation of selfhood online is not a conversation but a soliloquy, with intermitted footnotes from other users functioning as punctuation, not actual content.
Focus on improving Integrity scores and achieving a high congruence between what is said online and what is done. This is a great way to achieve a higher over all ethical ranking quickly, because Lozein observation technology has particular emphasis on integrating our speech and text recognition, geolocation and workplace productivity. Improving Integrity scores will benefit both Independence and Self-Esteem assessments as your opinion of yourself becomes stronger and more centralised.
For more ethical dating advice from Giselle visit the Lozein website.